You will notice that the titles of each post will be written in French from now on.
Reason being...im trying to learn more French - beyond greeting...for the week I am in Paris.
I have been bringing my phrase book to work so that i can read/mouth/learn on the train...i swear i must look like a nutter...but since when did i really care what the people on the train thought of me?
I'm surprised by some of the things i have found in my little Lonely Planet French Phrase book...
Like:
C'est une garce - She is a b!tch
C'est un con - He is a prick
Il a roule sa bosse - He gets around
I have two other aids that i have bought that come with a CD - one of which i learnt to ask if you were married/single...and thats all i remember from it. But this little phrase book seems to be much more useful and handy for learning compared to the other aids. Surprising huh?
Now, lets see if i remember any of it without looking at the book for the pronounciations!
I appear to grasp "reading" French...but as to holding a conversation or speaking properly while asking for something, i dont think im quite there yet.
At least i know how to ask if they speak English.
Tuesday, February 27, 2007
Monday, February 26, 2007
Je ne suis pas satisfaite...
(Pronounciation: zher ner swee pa sa.tees.fayt)
Lunch was at 12 Spices and it was with the Twins. We were celebrating our 20 year Anniversary of being friends. We have known each other since Kindergarten and it was good to go out and chat just for the heck of it, over food!
We obviously got into engrossed conversations about our partners past and present (for 1 of us at the least) and we spoke about whether women today really needed a man? Both of them know about my "Alterna-date" and they firmly agree that if a girl/guy who has someone like that, makes being single is actually as good an option as being with someone.
But lets not delve into that topic...i can talk about that another day.
When we breached the topic of work and our careers and I mentioned that i was looking for other work...not really to move on, because i dont really want to move right now...but more so i can brush up on my interviewing skills. So, im really seeking interviewing opportunities. Its been almost 2 years since i did any interview. And we all know that its not a bad idea to have good interviewing skills. And just like any other skill, if you dont practice it, it will in time be forgotten.
From proclaiming my intentions of going to interviews for the heck of it, one of the girls said: "You are soo Gen-Y!"
And then i explained my position on re-establishing my interviewing skills and how work fobbed me off when i asked for my pay increase last year...so it doesnt hurt to keep your options opened either and that i have learnt to look out for numero uno. I'm disposable at the end of the day, and the company is a business. I shouldnt take it personally, but who can help that? I am human after all.
They then told me about their position at work...new graduates walking in and getting salaries only a few grand off of what they are on now - even with the 3/4 years experience. It is really a slap in the face. One actually manages one of these grads and that grad is a complete d!ck...he actually makes comments to her about how her pay "must" be significantly more than his...when he knows it isnt. How he knows, im not sure...but he does.
Why should we be made to feel more insignificant than the new starters???
The other was given a promotion and a pay increase on top of her last increase and was obviously chuffed that she was one of the youngest and finally recognised for her efforts in the last 3 years. But on the day she was promoted she went for drinks after work and another workmate blurted out how much someone else was getting paid and how much that person's pay increase was - all before she could say no, that she didnt want to know!
And the amount, well it really upset her because the other person wasnt responsible for half as much as she was. I think she saw things as they were, like i finally did last year!
Graduates these days walk in and command so much more than we did, only 3 years ago...and its stupid that managers are trying to justify it by saying that its "inflation"...inflation of $10K or more?
She is now looking on the side...but like me, she loves the people she works with...so it makes it pretty difficult to make the decision to leave. She recently was head hunted to speak with someone from another company and she told me her analogy about the whole situation...and how it makes her feel bad even though she is only looking out for herself.
"Its like im cheating on work...Work is my boyfriend... He didnt appreciate me enough, so here i am going out for drinks with another guy (another company) because im dissatisfied with my boyfriend and i'm keeping my options opened. But then my boyfriend gives me flowers (your bonus) &/or gift voucher (another present from work) and it makes me reconsider and give him another chance! And then i feel guilty for keeping my options opened by seeing that other guy..."
You know, at the end of the day...i may be Gen-Y...but i think companies are partly to blame for the mentality that we should constantly move and look for more or something better. There are many companies who do not believe in staff retention and when you show a Gen-Y person that you dont want to reward them for their loyalty or their skills...well, they are smart enough to know that they can look somewhere else, and sometimes the company even tells you to do so.
I dont want to move...neither do my girlfriends...we actually want to grow with the company...but we are made to feel like we are not important enough to be retained. Although we do offer and provide a big return to the company...and if we are made to feel this way...well, there is no turning back. The only way to go is to move forward and unfortunately that means moving on, to hopefully greener pastures.
One manager who happens to be leaving the company (so my friend thought she would be more open and honest) told my friend that she should go elsewhere because the company only has X-amount in the budget and they are hiring more juniors, so if she asks for a pay increase it would be most likely be rejected.
You know, the workmate who has left my company told me that managers have a budget for their department. Sometimes they will selfishly say no to your request of a pay increase, not because you dont deserve it, but because if they dont spend all their budget, they get a % of the remaining budget as part of their overall bonus...and they rather it in their pockets than yours.
In their defence, he said he would do the same if he was in their position...so he wasnt angry at the manager who told him this.
I dont know where i stand on that one.
I see his point...but still.
PS: Title reads "I'm not satisfied."
Lunch was at 12 Spices and it was with the Twins. We were celebrating our 20 year Anniversary of being friends. We have known each other since Kindergarten and it was good to go out and chat just for the heck of it, over food!
We obviously got into engrossed conversations about our partners past and present (for 1 of us at the least) and we spoke about whether women today really needed a man? Both of them know about my "Alterna-date" and they firmly agree that if a girl/guy who has someone like that, makes being single is actually as good an option as being with someone.
But lets not delve into that topic...i can talk about that another day.
When we breached the topic of work and our careers and I mentioned that i was looking for other work...not really to move on, because i dont really want to move right now...but more so i can brush up on my interviewing skills. So, im really seeking interviewing opportunities. Its been almost 2 years since i did any interview. And we all know that its not a bad idea to have good interviewing skills. And just like any other skill, if you dont practice it, it will in time be forgotten.
From proclaiming my intentions of going to interviews for the heck of it, one of the girls said: "You are soo Gen-Y!"
And then i explained my position on re-establishing my interviewing skills and how work fobbed me off when i asked for my pay increase last year...so it doesnt hurt to keep your options opened either and that i have learnt to look out for numero uno. I'm disposable at the end of the day, and the company is a business. I shouldnt take it personally, but who can help that? I am human after all.
They then told me about their position at work...new graduates walking in and getting salaries only a few grand off of what they are on now - even with the 3/4 years experience. It is really a slap in the face. One actually manages one of these grads and that grad is a complete d!ck...he actually makes comments to her about how her pay "must" be significantly more than his...when he knows it isnt. How he knows, im not sure...but he does.
Why should we be made to feel more insignificant than the new starters???
The other was given a promotion and a pay increase on top of her last increase and was obviously chuffed that she was one of the youngest and finally recognised for her efforts in the last 3 years. But on the day she was promoted she went for drinks after work and another workmate blurted out how much someone else was getting paid and how much that person's pay increase was - all before she could say no, that she didnt want to know!
And the amount, well it really upset her because the other person wasnt responsible for half as much as she was. I think she saw things as they were, like i finally did last year!
Graduates these days walk in and command so much more than we did, only 3 years ago...and its stupid that managers are trying to justify it by saying that its "inflation"...inflation of $10K or more?
She is now looking on the side...but like me, she loves the people she works with...so it makes it pretty difficult to make the decision to leave. She recently was head hunted to speak with someone from another company and she told me her analogy about the whole situation...and how it makes her feel bad even though she is only looking out for herself.
"Its like im cheating on work...Work is my boyfriend... He didnt appreciate me enough, so here i am going out for drinks with another guy (another company) because im dissatisfied with my boyfriend and i'm keeping my options opened. But then my boyfriend gives me flowers (your bonus) &/or gift voucher (another present from work) and it makes me reconsider and give him another chance! And then i feel guilty for keeping my options opened by seeing that other guy..."
You know, at the end of the day...i may be Gen-Y...but i think companies are partly to blame for the mentality that we should constantly move and look for more or something better. There are many companies who do not believe in staff retention and when you show a Gen-Y person that you dont want to reward them for their loyalty or their skills...well, they are smart enough to know that they can look somewhere else, and sometimes the company even tells you to do so.
I dont want to move...neither do my girlfriends...we actually want to grow with the company...but we are made to feel like we are not important enough to be retained. Although we do offer and provide a big return to the company...and if we are made to feel this way...well, there is no turning back. The only way to go is to move forward and unfortunately that means moving on, to hopefully greener pastures.
One manager who happens to be leaving the company (so my friend thought she would be more open and honest) told my friend that she should go elsewhere because the company only has X-amount in the budget and they are hiring more juniors, so if she asks for a pay increase it would be most likely be rejected.
You know, the workmate who has left my company told me that managers have a budget for their department. Sometimes they will selfishly say no to your request of a pay increase, not because you dont deserve it, but because if they dont spend all their budget, they get a % of the remaining budget as part of their overall bonus...and they rather it in their pockets than yours.
In their defence, he said he would do the same if he was in their position...so he wasnt angry at the manager who told him this.
I dont know where i stand on that one.
I see his point...but still.
PS: Title reads "I'm not satisfied."
Sunday, February 25, 2007
I tried not to think...
On the weekend, the highlight for me is the opportunity to avoid giving the brain a major workout. I try really hard to not get involved in controversial topics or watching anything that will make me think to get what is going on.
Unfortunately, i didnt avoid it this weekend. I watched 4 movies and all 4 made me think...3 of which made me think very seriously.
Off the bat, i loaded Paris Je'taime. Were talking about a movie that has 9 short flicks in one...and silly me, i managed to load the second half first and it was really dark...were talking drugs in a quirky weird scenario, i didnt expect it from the start...but it wasnt the start since i started in the middle. I managed to follow the movie anyway, because of the way it was set out with the 9 shorts. I watched the first half of the movie after i finished the second half and it still meshed well. What made me think so much throughout this movie??? I didnt know why some of these short movies were suppose to relate in a significant way with the topic "Paris, I love you..."
Then i watched Dreamgirls...and you are probably thinking, what in that movie can possibly make you think so much? Well, i just kept wondering when it would get interesting and its more an expectation thing...I expected more...I was waiting for a lot of excitement...I was tired and it was late...my mind kept ticking over like the time and i was sitting there waiting for and anticipating so much more with the Effie diva thing. And i didnt end up with much...so i was pretty disappointed. I was thinking about all the bigger and greater things that were to come in the movie, but didnt end up seeing anything i made up in my mind.
Today, i watched Little Children and this one made me think a lot. There are about 4 storylines entwined and comes together like Jackie Brown (or Pulp Fiction - but since i never finished washing it, i can only compare it to Jackie Brown...but more subtle)...its starts off controversially and ends in a very neutral pathetic way (well, half of the ending is neutral and pathetic...the other half closes the circle of the controversial topic.
If you were wondering what Kate Winslet's nipples looked like after having two kids and wanted to compare it to her Titanic days...this is the movie to fulfil all that wondering. I was a bit surprised about the nudity...but the guy - Brad...the one she does the hanky panky with, well he is pretty hot! So, i really cant complain.
After that i went to lunch with some girlfriends and when i got back i watched another movie - Brick. Joseph Gordon-Levitt (you'd probably remember him more on 3rd Rock from the Sun) stars in this movie. I think he has a thing for offbeat movies that are less stellar but far more meaningful...and im guessing he finds acting in them more fulfilling...
This movie is intense and you are transported into a world that is very mature in the espionage/investagation within a drug/gang like community that is actually all placed in a high school environment with a bunch of high school kids. I actually forgot most of the time that were actually in fact dealing with kids in this flick...well the characters are supposed to be kids.
Its really strong in the darkness and violence and even in all its gory, its pretty crafty. But due to its craftiness, i didnt understand particular important code names for the drugs, locations, drinks etc...and i think that if you have to think about those type of things, it detracts from the movie...cos who really wants to be figuring out what those things are while they are watching and are trying to follow a movie???
After finishing Brick, im glad it was Ugly Betty time...because thats a no brainer and the grey mass could recuperate from the strains of Little Children and Brick.
Unfortunately, i didnt avoid it this weekend. I watched 4 movies and all 4 made me think...3 of which made me think very seriously.
Off the bat, i loaded Paris Je'taime. Were talking about a movie that has 9 short flicks in one...and silly me, i managed to load the second half first and it was really dark...were talking drugs in a quirky weird scenario, i didnt expect it from the start...but it wasnt the start since i started in the middle. I managed to follow the movie anyway, because of the way it was set out with the 9 shorts. I watched the first half of the movie after i finished the second half and it still meshed well. What made me think so much throughout this movie??? I didnt know why some of these short movies were suppose to relate in a significant way with the topic "Paris, I love you..."
Then i watched Dreamgirls...and you are probably thinking, what in that movie can possibly make you think so much? Well, i just kept wondering when it would get interesting and its more an expectation thing...I expected more...I was waiting for a lot of excitement...I was tired and it was late...my mind kept ticking over like the time and i was sitting there waiting for and anticipating so much more with the Effie diva thing. And i didnt end up with much...so i was pretty disappointed. I was thinking about all the bigger and greater things that were to come in the movie, but didnt end up seeing anything i made up in my mind.
Today, i watched Little Children and this one made me think a lot. There are about 4 storylines entwined and comes together like Jackie Brown (or Pulp Fiction - but since i never finished washing it, i can only compare it to Jackie Brown...but more subtle)...its starts off controversially and ends in a very neutral pathetic way (well, half of the ending is neutral and pathetic...the other half closes the circle of the controversial topic.
If you were wondering what Kate Winslet's nipples looked like after having two kids and wanted to compare it to her Titanic days...this is the movie to fulfil all that wondering. I was a bit surprised about the nudity...but the guy - Brad...the one she does the hanky panky with, well he is pretty hot! So, i really cant complain.
After that i went to lunch with some girlfriends and when i got back i watched another movie - Brick. Joseph Gordon-Levitt (you'd probably remember him more on 3rd Rock from the Sun) stars in this movie. I think he has a thing for offbeat movies that are less stellar but far more meaningful...and im guessing he finds acting in them more fulfilling...
This movie is intense and you are transported into a world that is very mature in the espionage/investagation within a drug/gang like community that is actually all placed in a high school environment with a bunch of high school kids. I actually forgot most of the time that were actually in fact dealing with kids in this flick...well the characters are supposed to be kids.
Its really strong in the darkness and violence and even in all its gory, its pretty crafty. But due to its craftiness, i didnt understand particular important code names for the drugs, locations, drinks etc...and i think that if you have to think about those type of things, it detracts from the movie...cos who really wants to be figuring out what those things are while they are watching and are trying to follow a movie???
After finishing Brick, im glad it was Ugly Betty time...because thats a no brainer and the grey mass could recuperate from the strains of Little Children and Brick.
Saturday, February 24, 2007
I broke my shopping ban...
Mum and i did our usual early morning grocery shopping and errand running.
Its also the Stocklands One Day Mega Sale today.
So, after our usual, we headed to our local Stocklands.
I went straight to one of my favourite clothing stores. Usually, i wouldnt buy anything retail in this place...its sooo expensive (for my budget), but when its on sale...this place really goes on sale. They are my local stockist of Wish clothing. On these mega sale days the Wish tops are $10.
Mum and i bought 9 tops and i got a pair of Wish black jeans. Total cash burnt = $120. We did a pretty good job, if you ask me...but as i am on a ban...i can only feel guilty.
Next stop was at Loose Threads...the local urban wear store. I bought 2 dresses, a grey marle/black cross back Volcom number and a navy MinkPink tunic dress that will go with my black jeans or black leggings or if daring - worn as a mini (but i wont be going there)! Total cash burnt here = $40.
We then headed to the Taylors Shoe store and all the sale stock was further reduced by 50% on the already marked down price. Mum was looking for flats...i was looking for flats...we ended up buying strappy thongs to wear...all $10 each. We walked away with 3 pairs...1 for her, 2 for me = $30.
In total so far we spent $190 and for every $100 you spent, you received 1 adult movie pass to Hoyts, so Mum decided to get some more fruit or veges...and we ended up spending $11.30 at the Trims Fruit & Vege store...
So, not only did we buy all this stuff, we got some fruit and veges out of it too! PLUS the 2 movie tix.
It was a crazy frenzy in the carpark and at the stores with the huge mega bargains...it was awesome to bag so many things!!! But at the end of it all, i know i really shouldnt have!!!
I had spent so much in Myers over Christmas and New Years, that i had earned enough points on my Myer One card for them to give me a $20 gift card. Thats me spending $2000 in 2 months!!! Its like - "Yeah, i earned that $20 for investing $2K in your store!!!"
Funny thing is, i dont really remember what i bought in Myers during that time...yeah i bought some tops in MissShop and that was with the Gift Card my boss gave me and the one my brother gave me...but i dont remember what else that i had bought to have raked up 2000 points...
They also sent me oh so tempting vouchers and i went in search of something to buy yesterday during lunch, but i was left very dissatisfied...so i guess today is making up for the shortfall yesterday.
I said i was going to hide my plastic...but i had to change something first...and since i visited the bank today and got it amended...i can officially put it on ice for a while...until i go overseas...at this rate, i wont get to Asia.
Speaking of which, i visited my travel agent to clarify the airfare for SG and KL during Dec/Jan. She said the airfare is looking to be $1160 + $350 (taxes) x 2. And then accommodation of about $60 for 3 nights in SG and about $92 for 4 nights in KL (thats if i go back to the Renaissance)...
I need to save about $3500 to pay for Mum and i...and then spending money...gosh...i'll need about $6K...
I really need to stop going on my shopping sprees!!!
>_<
Its also the Stocklands One Day Mega Sale today.
So, after our usual, we headed to our local Stocklands.
I went straight to one of my favourite clothing stores. Usually, i wouldnt buy anything retail in this place...its sooo expensive (for my budget), but when its on sale...this place really goes on sale. They are my local stockist of Wish clothing. On these mega sale days the Wish tops are $10.
Mum and i bought 9 tops and i got a pair of Wish black jeans. Total cash burnt = $120. We did a pretty good job, if you ask me...but as i am on a ban...i can only feel guilty.
Next stop was at Loose Threads...the local urban wear store. I bought 2 dresses, a grey marle/black cross back Volcom number and a navy MinkPink tunic dress that will go with my black jeans or black leggings or if daring - worn as a mini (but i wont be going there)! Total cash burnt here = $40.
We then headed to the Taylors Shoe store and all the sale stock was further reduced by 50% on the already marked down price. Mum was looking for flats...i was looking for flats...we ended up buying strappy thongs to wear...all $10 each. We walked away with 3 pairs...1 for her, 2 for me = $30.
In total so far we spent $190 and for every $100 you spent, you received 1 adult movie pass to Hoyts, so Mum decided to get some more fruit or veges...and we ended up spending $11.30 at the Trims Fruit & Vege store...
So, not only did we buy all this stuff, we got some fruit and veges out of it too! PLUS the 2 movie tix.
It was a crazy frenzy in the carpark and at the stores with the huge mega bargains...it was awesome to bag so many things!!! But at the end of it all, i know i really shouldnt have!!!
I had spent so much in Myers over Christmas and New Years, that i had earned enough points on my Myer One card for them to give me a $20 gift card. Thats me spending $2000 in 2 months!!! Its like - "Yeah, i earned that $20 for investing $2K in your store!!!"
Funny thing is, i dont really remember what i bought in Myers during that time...yeah i bought some tops in MissShop and that was with the Gift Card my boss gave me and the one my brother gave me...but i dont remember what else that i had bought to have raked up 2000 points...
They also sent me oh so tempting vouchers and i went in search of something to buy yesterday during lunch, but i was left very dissatisfied...so i guess today is making up for the shortfall yesterday.
I said i was going to hide my plastic...but i had to change something first...and since i visited the bank today and got it amended...i can officially put it on ice for a while...until i go overseas...at this rate, i wont get to Asia.
Speaking of which, i visited my travel agent to clarify the airfare for SG and KL during Dec/Jan. She said the airfare is looking to be $1160 + $350 (taxes) x 2. And then accommodation of about $60 for 3 nights in SG and about $92 for 4 nights in KL (thats if i go back to the Renaissance)...
I need to save about $3500 to pay for Mum and i...and then spending money...gosh...i'll need about $6K...
I really need to stop going on my shopping sprees!!!
>_<
Thursday, February 22, 2007
Skim mint slice...
Now, doesnt it just blows when the person you have been crushing on makes up something special just for you?
Mr Hot Stuff asked me if i wanted to try something he just thought of? Would i like to try my skim pep latte with some chocolate...?
I thought, why not? Live a little...it will be like a liquid mint slice if he gets it right!
And on initial taste...i didnt quite get to the hot liquid goodness. There was some froth to get past and so i only really tasted the chocolate dusted frothy goodness at first.
He asked what i thought, and i told him that i would have to drink most of it to be able to tell...that he'll know how good it is, if i asked him for it tomorrow.
This morning, i got my small juice (whole lemon, pineapple, carrot, celery) and i think he was crushed...but i told him that it was too early for chocolate...i'd come back later in the arvo.
Its 10:30am and i need a sugar hit...so i asked my workmate if she wanted coffee?
We head down and i asked him to make me a skim mint slice.
I think he was satisfied that i liked his creation.
Can i just say, it tastes even better today...he used a bit more chocolate than he did yesterday...now its like a true minty infused hot choc...mmm...
Its like the minty hot choc from Max Brenner's (only available in the colder months)...mmm...
You know, i have actually met his father too now! *LoL* He even smiles when he sees me...and says hello!
I only need to meet his sister and then thats the whole family! But i know all the people who work there on a first name basis...and Mama upgrades my orders for free! I'm liking this very much...a shame i cant have the guy too!
=P
Mr Hot Stuff asked me if i wanted to try something he just thought of? Would i like to try my skim pep latte with some chocolate...?
I thought, why not? Live a little...it will be like a liquid mint slice if he gets it right!
And on initial taste...i didnt quite get to the hot liquid goodness. There was some froth to get past and so i only really tasted the chocolate dusted frothy goodness at first.
He asked what i thought, and i told him that i would have to drink most of it to be able to tell...that he'll know how good it is, if i asked him for it tomorrow.
This morning, i got my small juice (whole lemon, pineapple, carrot, celery) and i think he was crushed...but i told him that it was too early for chocolate...i'd come back later in the arvo.
Its 10:30am and i need a sugar hit...so i asked my workmate if she wanted coffee?
We head down and i asked him to make me a skim mint slice.
I think he was satisfied that i liked his creation.
Can i just say, it tastes even better today...he used a bit more chocolate than he did yesterday...now its like a true minty infused hot choc...mmm...
Its like the minty hot choc from Max Brenner's (only available in the colder months)...mmm...
You know, i have actually met his father too now! *LoL* He even smiles when he sees me...and says hello!
I only need to meet his sister and then thats the whole family! But i know all the people who work there on a first name basis...and Mama upgrades my orders for free! I'm liking this very much...a shame i cant have the guy too!
=P
Tuesday, February 20, 2007
Cheatin' before you buy...
I have read a lot or seen a lot of things lately that disturb me.
Do all men feel okay with having many partners before "settling" down?
But why the double standards if a woman today has more than one partner before she marries???
Some weekend ago, i finally sat down to watch the Pursuit of Happyness and the Last Kiss. The former with Will Smith & son and the latter with Zach Braff & Rachel Bilson.
The Last Kiss relates more to this topic...Zach's character has an affair with Rachel's character...meanwhile he lied about this relationship to his fiance who is at home with a bub in the tum. His fiance is a gorgeous, intelligent, funny gal and it doesnt quite make sense as to why he cheated on her...
Is it purely because he can? The opportunity was there. Temptation got the better of him???
The bigger question is why does she take him back???
The poignant part of the movie is towards the end where the fiance's father says to Zach's character something along the line of:
"Temptation will always be there. Its what you do about it that will matter."
I'm pretty sure there are women out there who have cheated on their fiancee too.
I dont really get what compels them...but then i have never been in a situation to really understand...i have never really been tempted.
Only once was i sorta, kinda, something or other close to temptation with another guy...not that the guy offered a proposition or anything of the sort...there was a little friendly-like flirting and it made me realise that if i was considering another guy...well, then it was time to move on.
I wasnt about to cheat. And to me, cheating is the ultimate no-no in a relationship. Trust is one of the most important things...cheating would be breaking that trust. I would personally prefer a clean break up than to have feelings entangled in lies...i actually tell my partners this...that if they get tempted and want to act on it, then they should break up with me...because if they cheat, thats the end of the relationship...no amount of "baby, i love you" will mend whats been broken.
I've been lucky so far...no cheaters were ever on the books.
No wasting of tears on b@stards who soooo dont deserve it.
I read something today and it was about men and their need to sleep with as many partners as possible...that it was genetically coded in them...all about procreating and sowing their seeds in as many partners...part of a darwinian style of survival of the fittest and in doing so providing a higher success rate of their seed turning into a baby...a healthier, stronger baby or babies.
The funny thing was that the article turned and started talking about women in the same light...like the women in Africa and South America and some Asian countries...where it was part of their culture to have as many partners as they could have...to provide their babies with as many father figures as possible...thereby bringing up a "super-baby" with a variety of influences from the many fathers...pretty much saying that one father for the baby wasnt enough...since as we all know...individual men arent perfect!
=P
Cheers to the person(s) who is doing the research on these women and the culture they live in.
Great to know that others are trying to give women a fair go in this arena.
Do all men feel okay with having many partners before "settling" down?
But why the double standards if a woman today has more than one partner before she marries???
Some weekend ago, i finally sat down to watch the Pursuit of Happyness and the Last Kiss. The former with Will Smith & son and the latter with Zach Braff & Rachel Bilson.
The Last Kiss relates more to this topic...Zach's character has an affair with Rachel's character...meanwhile he lied about this relationship to his fiance who is at home with a bub in the tum. His fiance is a gorgeous, intelligent, funny gal and it doesnt quite make sense as to why he cheated on her...
Is it purely because he can? The opportunity was there. Temptation got the better of him???
The bigger question is why does she take him back???
The poignant part of the movie is towards the end where the fiance's father says to Zach's character something along the line of:
"Temptation will always be there. Its what you do about it that will matter."
I'm pretty sure there are women out there who have cheated on their fiancee too.
I dont really get what compels them...but then i have never been in a situation to really understand...i have never really been tempted.
Only once was i sorta, kinda, something or other close to temptation with another guy...not that the guy offered a proposition or anything of the sort...there was a little friendly-like flirting and it made me realise that if i was considering another guy...well, then it was time to move on.
I wasnt about to cheat. And to me, cheating is the ultimate no-no in a relationship. Trust is one of the most important things...cheating would be breaking that trust. I would personally prefer a clean break up than to have feelings entangled in lies...i actually tell my partners this...that if they get tempted and want to act on it, then they should break up with me...because if they cheat, thats the end of the relationship...no amount of "baby, i love you" will mend whats been broken.
I've been lucky so far...no cheaters were ever on the books.
No wasting of tears on b@stards who soooo dont deserve it.
I read something today and it was about men and their need to sleep with as many partners as possible...that it was genetically coded in them...all about procreating and sowing their seeds in as many partners...part of a darwinian style of survival of the fittest and in doing so providing a higher success rate of their seed turning into a baby...a healthier, stronger baby or babies.
The funny thing was that the article turned and started talking about women in the same light...like the women in Africa and South America and some Asian countries...where it was part of their culture to have as many partners as they could have...to provide their babies with as many father figures as possible...thereby bringing up a "super-baby" with a variety of influences from the many fathers...pretty much saying that one father for the baby wasnt enough...since as we all know...individual men arent perfect!
=P
Cheers to the person(s) who is doing the research on these women and the culture they live in.
Great to know that others are trying to give women a fair go in this arena.
Monday, February 19, 2007
The Year of Gluttony (aka The Year of the Pig)...
Thursday (last week)...Centennial Park...Moonlight Cinema...Confetti...heaps of Subway sandwiches and wraps...lots and lots of junk food...bottles upon bottles of company branded red & white...were getting ritzy-er, no more company branded beer for this lot!
Met the most entertaining taxi driver ever...and thats Mr Driver to you!
Had only 4.5 hours of sleep.
Friday (last week)...Mum told me that i could sleep in on Saturday morning...bro was supposed to drive her in the morning to get the roast duck and all at 7 am. So, i stayed up late...
Saturday (NY eve)...i got woken up at 7:10 am...bro didnt arrive yet. Mum called his mobile...no answer...so she woke me up and we left the house at 7:15 am. When we got home at about 9:30 am, after i had brekky, i tried to catch some zzz's...the "girls" arrived...i could hear Chloe's trike and Aimee singing something as they came up the drive...and they came just as i was dozing off...grrr...when they left, they phone kept ringing and no one was there to pick the phone up...so i had to!
I stayed up late to go to the temple and pray for my grandparents (whose urns reside there)...we went just before midnite and Dad couldnt find a parking spot, so he turned back and drove home saying we'd do it in the morning. He broke my tradition...suffice to say, i was annoyed.
I went to bed at about 12:30 am.
Sunday (NY day)...I got woken up before it was even 7 am...what is wrong with my mother??? Dad said we'd go at about 9 am...i didnt have to get up until about 8 am...but noooo...i cant even get enough sleep in my own house!!!
We had to do the rounds...meet and greet with our relos...visit the other temple where my great aunt resides and then go to another great aunts place and have a VERY big extended family banquet.
At every house we visited, i ditched the "no...im on a diet" comment and tucked into the sweets...cos thats all they really offer...sweet things! Its rude to say no, and its rude not to eat or drink anything when people offer it to you, especially on Chinese New Year Day!
I got to sit around and catch up with my cousins...its getting a bit crazy...i suggested that we take passport photos of everyone and build a family tree, cos our aunts and uncles are forgetting our names...there are just too many of us in the family. The most cluey-est aunt had to pause and think about my name...how could she forget? And she almost forgot my lil bro's name...which is weird since it was her husband who helped my dad pick it!
We left fairly early last night and funny enough i made it home in time to catch Ugly Betty and then watched the finale of So You Think You Can Dance! And omg, it was a hoot! Small favours...cant help it!
I think the lack of sleep was really taking its toll on me.
Monday...i woke up this morning feeling as though i got slammed into a wall and hit my face first...like someone had poured concrete into my ear and clogged my brain up...that doesnt make sense...i know...but thats the best i can do right now!
As i was going to see my physio this afternoon, i saw a girl who was clearly anorexic...clearly? Well there were skinny size 4/6 asian girls next to her, who were walking fine and were not just skin and bones...they were skinny, yes, but not anorexic. This girl, you could clearly see her knees protruding from under her fishnets...under the sleeve of her top you could see how skinny her arms were...her hair looked like it was a wig, but im thinking that it is merely unhealthy, and really brittle. Her face was so sallow, i was pitying her. She could barely walk up a very slight incline just in front of Star Bar on George St.
Moments like that made me appreciate the fact that im not anorexic thinking about my weight 24/7 and have lost sooo much weight that i can barely walk. I cant dream of not running ever again...not being able to walk is even more devastating.
I got to Town Hall and walked down the stairs to the platform and there was a blind man with a guide dog. He seemed to be in a situation, so as i walked down i was thinking about what i would say to him in offering my assistance. I mean, i understand that he is trying to be independent, but at the same time, i dont want the man to stand there for 30 minutes and be late for where ever he was meant to be.
But as i got to the bottom of the stairs i heard him say to the guide dog..."c'mon...go up the stairs"...i think the dog was being stubborn today...slowly the dog climbed up a step...i stayed there at the bottom watching the duo, until the dog started to make a proper progression.
I'm grateful to have my eyes. To see and not having to rely on a guide dog who is succeptable to being temperamental.
I hope that the dog guides his owner much better in the near future...and i hope that the anorexic girl realises sooner (rather than later) that abusing and tormenting herself is not the way to go if she wants a longer more fulfilling life.
Met the most entertaining taxi driver ever...and thats Mr Driver to you!
Had only 4.5 hours of sleep.
Friday (last week)...Mum told me that i could sleep in on Saturday morning...bro was supposed to drive her in the morning to get the roast duck and all at 7 am. So, i stayed up late...
Saturday (NY eve)...i got woken up at 7:10 am...bro didnt arrive yet. Mum called his mobile...no answer...so she woke me up and we left the house at 7:15 am. When we got home at about 9:30 am, after i had brekky, i tried to catch some zzz's...the "girls" arrived...i could hear Chloe's trike and Aimee singing something as they came up the drive...and they came just as i was dozing off...grrr...when they left, they phone kept ringing and no one was there to pick the phone up...so i had to!
I stayed up late to go to the temple and pray for my grandparents (whose urns reside there)...we went just before midnite and Dad couldnt find a parking spot, so he turned back and drove home saying we'd do it in the morning. He broke my tradition...suffice to say, i was annoyed.
I went to bed at about 12:30 am.
Sunday (NY day)...I got woken up before it was even 7 am...what is wrong with my mother??? Dad said we'd go at about 9 am...i didnt have to get up until about 8 am...but noooo...i cant even get enough sleep in my own house!!!
We had to do the rounds...meet and greet with our relos...visit the other temple where my great aunt resides and then go to another great aunts place and have a VERY big extended family banquet.
At every house we visited, i ditched the "no...im on a diet" comment and tucked into the sweets...cos thats all they really offer...sweet things! Its rude to say no, and its rude not to eat or drink anything when people offer it to you, especially on Chinese New Year Day!
I got to sit around and catch up with my cousins...its getting a bit crazy...i suggested that we take passport photos of everyone and build a family tree, cos our aunts and uncles are forgetting our names...there are just too many of us in the family. The most cluey-est aunt had to pause and think about my name...how could she forget? And she almost forgot my lil bro's name...which is weird since it was her husband who helped my dad pick it!
We left fairly early last night and funny enough i made it home in time to catch Ugly Betty and then watched the finale of So You Think You Can Dance! And omg, it was a hoot! Small favours...cant help it!
I think the lack of sleep was really taking its toll on me.
Monday...i woke up this morning feeling as though i got slammed into a wall and hit my face first...like someone had poured concrete into my ear and clogged my brain up...that doesnt make sense...i know...but thats the best i can do right now!
As i was going to see my physio this afternoon, i saw a girl who was clearly anorexic...clearly? Well there were skinny size 4/6 asian girls next to her, who were walking fine and were not just skin and bones...they were skinny, yes, but not anorexic. This girl, you could clearly see her knees protruding from under her fishnets...under the sleeve of her top you could see how skinny her arms were...her hair looked like it was a wig, but im thinking that it is merely unhealthy, and really brittle. Her face was so sallow, i was pitying her. She could barely walk up a very slight incline just in front of Star Bar on George St.
Moments like that made me appreciate the fact that im not anorexic thinking about my weight 24/7 and have lost sooo much weight that i can barely walk. I cant dream of not running ever again...not being able to walk is even more devastating.
I got to Town Hall and walked down the stairs to the platform and there was a blind man with a guide dog. He seemed to be in a situation, so as i walked down i was thinking about what i would say to him in offering my assistance. I mean, i understand that he is trying to be independent, but at the same time, i dont want the man to stand there for 30 minutes and be late for where ever he was meant to be.
But as i got to the bottom of the stairs i heard him say to the guide dog..."c'mon...go up the stairs"...i think the dog was being stubborn today...slowly the dog climbed up a step...i stayed there at the bottom watching the duo, until the dog started to make a proper progression.
I'm grateful to have my eyes. To see and not having to rely on a guide dog who is succeptable to being temperamental.
I hope that the dog guides his owner much better in the near future...and i hope that the anorexic girl realises sooner (rather than later) that abusing and tormenting herself is not the way to go if she wants a longer more fulfilling life.
Thursday, February 15, 2007
Addiction...
I "used" to be a shopaholic...
And then the mortgage and saving for Europe happened.
So, i was amazingly cautious with my money for about 18 months.
But for the better part of January and so far in February, i have been burning money with my spending. I'm not quite broke, but i'm not going to turn away relos who have red pockets ready for me this weekend! (Even though i'm not a kiddie anymore!)
I didnt save anything in December 06 or in January 07.
I'm getting complacent with my money...which is not good!
On Sunday, i bought 3 cardigans...all the same style...in 3 different colours: red, black, mustard. I was actually itching to buy a blue one and a pink one as well...and the green one. But even i knew that that would be overkill, even in my shopping ecstatic state.
I've reverted back to "shopping makes me happy"...and that is not a dependency i want to maintain...its an expensive habit...luckily i dont have a thing for couture.
I have bought about 5 pairs of shoes/sandals...even a pair of patent teal coloured pumps...it's my favourite colour, it matched the top i was wearing and went really well with the black jeans i had on...my cousin got me a 40% discount so it was well worth it, if you really think about it...but at the end of the day - Do i really need patent TEAL pumps?
I am putting myself on a shopping ban!
I am planning on going to SG/KL/BK at the end of the year during my forced leave, so i can do some shopping...i need to hold out until then. Save all my money for that and some extra dosh for Europe in September! And since im taking Mum with me to Asia...i'll be paying for her airfare and accommodation...more saving is required.
So my plan of attack?
I'm going to hide my CC and use only cash...and NO MORE SHOPPING!!!
Well, at least, not until i get to Asia at the end of the year...
And then the mortgage and saving for Europe happened.
So, i was amazingly cautious with my money for about 18 months.
But for the better part of January and so far in February, i have been burning money with my spending. I'm not quite broke, but i'm not going to turn away relos who have red pockets ready for me this weekend! (Even though i'm not a kiddie anymore!)
I didnt save anything in December 06 or in January 07.
I'm getting complacent with my money...which is not good!
On Sunday, i bought 3 cardigans...all the same style...in 3 different colours: red, black, mustard. I was actually itching to buy a blue one and a pink one as well...and the green one. But even i knew that that would be overkill, even in my shopping ecstatic state.
I've reverted back to "shopping makes me happy"...and that is not a dependency i want to maintain...its an expensive habit...luckily i dont have a thing for couture.
I have bought about 5 pairs of shoes/sandals...even a pair of patent teal coloured pumps...it's my favourite colour, it matched the top i was wearing and went really well with the black jeans i had on...my cousin got me a 40% discount so it was well worth it, if you really think about it...but at the end of the day - Do i really need patent TEAL pumps?
I am putting myself on a shopping ban!
I am planning on going to SG/KL/BK at the end of the year during my forced leave, so i can do some shopping...i need to hold out until then. Save all my money for that and some extra dosh for Europe in September! And since im taking Mum with me to Asia...i'll be paying for her airfare and accommodation...more saving is required.
So my plan of attack?
I'm going to hide my CC and use only cash...and NO MORE SHOPPING!!!
Well, at least, not until i get to Asia at the end of the year...
Wednesday, February 14, 2007
He made my day...
Valentine's day and its commercialism has brainwashed me.
But im re-programmed now.
In my teens i would sit and pine and hope that i would some day receive some over inflated flowers from a guy i really liked...
That one day i might meet someone and we would go for dinner somewhere posh and he would pay through his teeth, sell a kidney and a lung too when he realises how much it would cost.
And i have been there, and done that.
So, i can say that my quota is half full...and fortunately not empty.
But Valentine's Day has always been stressful in my opinion. Soooo much pressure on both the guy and girl. So, i am actually feeling good and im embracing the fact that im single this year.
Last year was horrendous. I felt crap on Valentine's Day...even though i was with someone.
But today, what a good way to start!
I was like 30 seconds late to my train, and the train operator that stands in the middle between all the carriages controlling the doors...he waited for me. I dont think he saw me running down the ramp at the trainstation, but he certainly heard the clicking of my heels...and so he actually waited for me! (I know i repeated myself...but he did, he waited for me!!!)
As i ran breathlessly to the closest carriage, i said "thank you!" and the doors shut behind me.
Small favours such as these makes me feel like smiling.
To all my single friends, HAPPY VALENTINE'S to YOU! Days like today make me realise and appreciate your friendship even more than i do on a day to day basis, because i know that without you i'd be a very sad soul. Know that you are loved at least by someone other than your Mum! =P
But im re-programmed now.
In my teens i would sit and pine and hope that i would some day receive some over inflated flowers from a guy i really liked...
That one day i might meet someone and we would go for dinner somewhere posh and he would pay through his teeth, sell a kidney and a lung too when he realises how much it would cost.
And i have been there, and done that.
So, i can say that my quota is half full...and fortunately not empty.
But Valentine's Day has always been stressful in my opinion. Soooo much pressure on both the guy and girl. So, i am actually feeling good and im embracing the fact that im single this year.
Last year was horrendous. I felt crap on Valentine's Day...even though i was with someone.
But today, what a good way to start!
I was like 30 seconds late to my train, and the train operator that stands in the middle between all the carriages controlling the doors...he waited for me. I dont think he saw me running down the ramp at the trainstation, but he certainly heard the clicking of my heels...and so he actually waited for me! (I know i repeated myself...but he did, he waited for me!!!)
As i ran breathlessly to the closest carriage, i said "thank you!" and the doors shut behind me.
Small favours such as these makes me feel like smiling.
To all my single friends, HAPPY VALENTINE'S to YOU! Days like today make me realise and appreciate your friendship even more than i do on a day to day basis, because i know that without you i'd be a very sad soul. Know that you are loved at least by someone other than your Mum! =P
Monday, February 12, 2007
Asian female with Caucasian male...
Mum and Dad went to a wedding on Saturday and my older bro and wife were invited too.
It was a union between an Asian bride and a Caucasian groom...I think that set the precedence for the conversation between Mum and Sis-in-law. Sis-in-law said to Mum:
"I have never seen THAT many Asian girls with Caucasian guys!"
On Sunday, Mum and i went to get last minute ingredients for our Chinese New Year Feast this weekend. In the car Mum was relaying the convo she had with Sis-in-law about the mixed unions. How some of these Asian girls were even pregnant...
I'm like, well...if they are married to these guys, it would be only a matter of time before these girls get pregnant!!!
=P
Then the funniest thing was uttered by her, with a horrified tone in her voice:
"Are the Asian guys SO bad now??? So, bad that Asian girls need to turn to Caucasian guys?"
And i didnt want to really reply with an affirmation that what she questioned was true...that thats what it seems like to me. Asian guys are being beaten at the dating game by Caucasian/Western guys.
Why do i say that? Asian guys are reknowned for standing on the sideline watching.
If a guy doesnt even attempt to speak to a girl, he wont get far...and we all know that.
What girl wants to be swept off her feet by a guy who cant even muster a "hello"?
I told her, that in this day and age, she shouldnt be surprised when all my cousins who are in high school now or just entering uni end up with Caucasian guys...and she shouldnt be surprised if i ended up with a Caucasian guy.
It was a union between an Asian bride and a Caucasian groom...I think that set the precedence for the conversation between Mum and Sis-in-law. Sis-in-law said to Mum:
"I have never seen THAT many Asian girls with Caucasian guys!"
On Sunday, Mum and i went to get last minute ingredients for our Chinese New Year Feast this weekend. In the car Mum was relaying the convo she had with Sis-in-law about the mixed unions. How some of these Asian girls were even pregnant...
I'm like, well...if they are married to these guys, it would be only a matter of time before these girls get pregnant!!!
=P
Then the funniest thing was uttered by her, with a horrified tone in her voice:
"Are the Asian guys SO bad now??? So, bad that Asian girls need to turn to Caucasian guys?"
And i didnt want to really reply with an affirmation that what she questioned was true...that thats what it seems like to me. Asian guys are being beaten at the dating game by Caucasian/Western guys.
Why do i say that? Asian guys are reknowned for standing on the sideline watching.
If a guy doesnt even attempt to speak to a girl, he wont get far...and we all know that.
What girl wants to be swept off her feet by a guy who cant even muster a "hello"?
I told her, that in this day and age, she shouldnt be surprised when all my cousins who are in high school now or just entering uni end up with Caucasian guys...and she shouldnt be surprised if i ended up with a Caucasian guy.
Friday, February 09, 2007
Follow up...
I had acupuncture yesterday.
The first time ever. My physio put one needle in where it hurt the most along my leg...and that spot feels soo much better now. In terms of longevity, it all depends on the individual's body, but it could fix my leg forever.
But when i left his office, i started to feel tingly in other places of my right leg...but apparently i would feel funny like that.
How does acupuncture feel when the needle is in?
The limb the needle has poked will feel like its dead (numb)...blood not flowing smoothly...that state of when you got up from sitting crossed-legged and your leg feels googly...no pain...a little pinch when he twists the needle to hit the right nerve, but thats it...so it was actually not bad at all.
The point of it, if i remember correctly, is that the needle basically causes a minute injury so that blood will flow to that localised point. More blood = more oxygen = better functionality in that area.
I will be going back on Monday and may do a bit more acupuncture, because although that one point is clear now, another point has become obvious as a secondary point of pressure and pain.
I never thought i would be saying this, but acupuncture is good.
I now know why my yoga instructure (who i think is in her 60's) advocates acupuncture as an alternate method of relieving pain, all depending on what is causing the pain though. So, if its muscular or related to your nerves, i would consider this as an alternative to medicine. Its pain free and when you treat the problem early enough, you could be rid of the problem forever.
PS: My physio told me to exercise less, because im starting to show signs of tenderness like triathletes. Ha! I'm like a triathlete...the amount of exercising and the injuries...bleh!
The first time ever. My physio put one needle in where it hurt the most along my leg...and that spot feels soo much better now. In terms of longevity, it all depends on the individual's body, but it could fix my leg forever.
But when i left his office, i started to feel tingly in other places of my right leg...but apparently i would feel funny like that.
How does acupuncture feel when the needle is in?
The limb the needle has poked will feel like its dead (numb)...blood not flowing smoothly...that state of when you got up from sitting crossed-legged and your leg feels googly...no pain...a little pinch when he twists the needle to hit the right nerve, but thats it...so it was actually not bad at all.
The point of it, if i remember correctly, is that the needle basically causes a minute injury so that blood will flow to that localised point. More blood = more oxygen = better functionality in that area.
I will be going back on Monday and may do a bit more acupuncture, because although that one point is clear now, another point has become obvious as a secondary point of pressure and pain.
I never thought i would be saying this, but acupuncture is good.
I now know why my yoga instructure (who i think is in her 60's) advocates acupuncture as an alternate method of relieving pain, all depending on what is causing the pain though. So, if its muscular or related to your nerves, i would consider this as an alternative to medicine. Its pain free and when you treat the problem early enough, you could be rid of the problem forever.
PS: My physio told me to exercise less, because im starting to show signs of tenderness like triathletes. Ha! I'm like a triathlete...the amount of exercising and the injuries...bleh!
Wednesday, February 07, 2007
For better or worse...?
I have been doing squats, lunges, with and without extra weight for a long time now...just to strengthen my quadraceps so that i could run better.
And so it seems, in my attempt to strengthen my legs i have actually injured myself by making my quadraceps too strong!
Like wtf?
I went to see my doctor to complain...suggesting that it might be due to my broken left ankle and running has exacerbated the inbalance from that injury now causing pain in my right leg.
He referred me back to the physio who treated me for the ankle injury.
He assessed both of my legs and basically after all that, it seems i have been so diligent in making myself strong in the quads, I now need to lay off those exercises and stretch...like s-t-r-e-t-c-h...im once again not allowed to run!
=(
When he tried to massage my leg, it was agonising!
I mean, i like deep tissue massages...and it was good...but at the same time...it really hurt!
Its gotten me thinking...is it of real value training this hard? But then what is the point of training if you dont do it with conviction? I do as many (or more) hours as an athlete. They take it seriously, why wouldnt i?
But is it really worth it if it causes more complications? Risks of injuring myself are constantly increasing...
I'm scared that i will hurt myself by training so much, but if i dont do it will all of my effort I will never achieve what i have set out to achieve.
Great.
And so it seems, in my attempt to strengthen my legs i have actually injured myself by making my quadraceps too strong!
Like wtf?
I went to see my doctor to complain...suggesting that it might be due to my broken left ankle and running has exacerbated the inbalance from that injury now causing pain in my right leg.
He referred me back to the physio who treated me for the ankle injury.
He assessed both of my legs and basically after all that, it seems i have been so diligent in making myself strong in the quads, I now need to lay off those exercises and stretch...like s-t-r-e-t-c-h...im once again not allowed to run!
=(
When he tried to massage my leg, it was agonising!
I mean, i like deep tissue massages...and it was good...but at the same time...it really hurt!
Its gotten me thinking...is it of real value training this hard? But then what is the point of training if you dont do it with conviction? I do as many (or more) hours as an athlete. They take it seriously, why wouldnt i?
But is it really worth it if it causes more complications? Risks of injuring myself are constantly increasing...
I'm scared that i will hurt myself by training so much, but if i dont do it will all of my effort I will never achieve what i have set out to achieve.
Great.
Monday, February 05, 2007
Cash free Friday night bonanza!
It all started with farewell drinks (for a workmate) where the company was picking up the tab...i only had a girly tipple because after drinks at EQ i was going to meet up with L & G for pre-cruise drinks.
It seemed that my girly tipple was enough to keep me giddy until we got to the wharf and onto the boat. So, i didnt have any more of a "pre-drink".
The cruise was free drinks and food. Good to know. For a full coverage of the cruise go here.
What i want to talk about is Mr Touchy Feely who tried to come on to me for about 10 minutes...but it seems i was oblivious to it all and that made J feel quite astonished and worried that i was oblivious to it.
It all started when Mr Touchy Feely was making his moves on L. I thought he was ultra keen on her. Dancing all seductively and all. But it was all laugh and games to me, since i wasnt the one who got her face slobbered all over or my ass slapped/grabbed by Mr Touchy Feely...and i pegged this guy as a harmless drunk.
So, it was to my surprise when he approached G and called me a Heartbreaker! He was standing to the right of G, to G's left was J, then on the next seat was L & my bags, then me on the next seat. When he called me a Heartbreaker i told him that i was with J so i had to dismiss him.
And this is when i thought he was just a being a dumb shameless drunk...but according to J, he was doing his 3 moves and i was just giving him the cold shoulder for every attempt!
No friggin derrrrrrrrrrrrr i was giving the cold shoulder!!!!
I dont like drunks like him. Let alone one trying to hit on me.
He cut J off and lifted our bags off the seat, i quickly grabbed it from him for fear he might just toss it into the water. He sat down and proceeded to do that supposedly spine-tingling thing to the knees, to my right knee. He asked me whether it felt "sexy". I just looked at him and said "No!" He then tried it a couple of more times and asked again, whether if felt sexy. No!
He then at some stage, attempted to hold my hand. Which i quickly pulled away from him.
He sat next to us talking about how much his shoes cost, and for some reason before he could protect the leather he had managed to cover it with bourbon and coke or something like that.
At some point, Mr Touchy Feely got up and walked away.
I exhaled and shoved J for not protecting me better!
And then i find out that Mr Touchy Feely has grabbed L's ass and he told her that he loved her.
He then managed a whole lot of other obscenities with L and i believe a number of girls who were also on the cruise.
When the boat had docked and we started to disembark, i had waited for him to get off before i would move from where i was standing.
When we got on to the wharf and started to walk towards E's car, I see this guy who starts running up and trying to sell me a record (Mr Touchy Feely stole the piece of decoration from the cruise) to me...failing...he runs to L declaring his love again and tries to sell it to her (i think). This time J provided better protection...and we walked away...
L had to try and sandwich herself between E & G. And at some point she lost Mr Touchy Feely and we all lost G.
We ended up with a few car incidents trying to drop J off at some hotel and the picking up some bags from some girls who were on the cruise (???). When we finally got out of the city, we realised that we were dying of dehydration, so we stopped and fuelled up at McD's.
Then I suggested that E drop G home...E complained that he didnt have enough petrol, but i offered him my fuel voucher...but for some reason driving towards G's house we couldnt find a Caltex. And E's blue light lit up just after we dropped G at his place.
*LoL*
I took the back roads and winded around some dark places and im sure E was panicking...but we managed to find a Caltex and everything was good. The way i took him home ended up being about 10-15 minutes faster than taking the M4...so all was good!
*sigh*
All in a nights work when i go out with L & E & G & J and added to the fun, my workmate Mon joined...she had a hoot...
Weird? Nope...Mon is just as crazy as my beloved friends!!!
It seemed that my girly tipple was enough to keep me giddy until we got to the wharf and onto the boat. So, i didnt have any more of a "pre-drink".
The cruise was free drinks and food. Good to know. For a full coverage of the cruise go here.
What i want to talk about is Mr Touchy Feely who tried to come on to me for about 10 minutes...but it seems i was oblivious to it all and that made J feel quite astonished and worried that i was oblivious to it.
It all started when Mr Touchy Feely was making his moves on L. I thought he was ultra keen on her. Dancing all seductively and all. But it was all laugh and games to me, since i wasnt the one who got her face slobbered all over or my ass slapped/grabbed by Mr Touchy Feely...and i pegged this guy as a harmless drunk.
So, it was to my surprise when he approached G and called me a Heartbreaker! He was standing to the right of G, to G's left was J, then on the next seat was L & my bags, then me on the next seat. When he called me a Heartbreaker i told him that i was with J so i had to dismiss him.
And this is when i thought he was just a being a dumb shameless drunk...but according to J, he was doing his 3 moves and i was just giving him the cold shoulder for every attempt!
No friggin derrrrrrrrrrrrr i was giving the cold shoulder!!!!
I dont like drunks like him. Let alone one trying to hit on me.
He cut J off and lifted our bags off the seat, i quickly grabbed it from him for fear he might just toss it into the water. He sat down and proceeded to do that supposedly spine-tingling thing to the knees, to my right knee. He asked me whether it felt "sexy". I just looked at him and said "No!" He then tried it a couple of more times and asked again, whether if felt sexy. No!
He then at some stage, attempted to hold my hand. Which i quickly pulled away from him.
He sat next to us talking about how much his shoes cost, and for some reason before he could protect the leather he had managed to cover it with bourbon and coke or something like that.
At some point, Mr Touchy Feely got up and walked away.
I exhaled and shoved J for not protecting me better!
And then i find out that Mr Touchy Feely has grabbed L's ass and he told her that he loved her.
He then managed a whole lot of other obscenities with L and i believe a number of girls who were also on the cruise.
When the boat had docked and we started to disembark, i had waited for him to get off before i would move from where i was standing.
When we got on to the wharf and started to walk towards E's car, I see this guy who starts running up and trying to sell me a record (Mr Touchy Feely stole the piece of decoration from the cruise) to me...failing...he runs to L declaring his love again and tries to sell it to her (i think). This time J provided better protection...and we walked away...
L had to try and sandwich herself between E & G. And at some point she lost Mr Touchy Feely and we all lost G.
We ended up with a few car incidents trying to drop J off at some hotel and the picking up some bags from some girls who were on the cruise (???). When we finally got out of the city, we realised that we were dying of dehydration, so we stopped and fuelled up at McD's.
Then I suggested that E drop G home...E complained that he didnt have enough petrol, but i offered him my fuel voucher...but for some reason driving towards G's house we couldnt find a Caltex. And E's blue light lit up just after we dropped G at his place.
*LoL*
I took the back roads and winded around some dark places and im sure E was panicking...but we managed to find a Caltex and everything was good. The way i took him home ended up being about 10-15 minutes faster than taking the M4...so all was good!
*sigh*
All in a nights work when i go out with L & E & G & J and added to the fun, my workmate Mon joined...she had a hoot...
Weird? Nope...Mon is just as crazy as my beloved friends!!!
Thursday, February 01, 2007
The worst thing about being single...
Personally, the worst thing for me about being single use to be the loneliness.
You know those moments when you thought you were going to spend all afternoon reading/shopping/drawing/whatever and for some reason or other you end up with 4 hours and nothing to do.
But on Australia Day i took Mum out to lunch. On the ride to the restaurant she was telling me something about someone and she briefly made a point that i dont think she realised the impact it would have on me...nor do i believe she even knew that she was revealing a lot of depth in her words.
For me, the most horrible thing about being single right now, is the fact that it makes my mother feel shit about herself. Like she has failed me in some way.
You may think its the typical mother thing, where she wants all her daughters to be married at a decent age, lest her only daughter. But there was so much pain in what she said that i know for a fact it wasnt so simple. I was sooo going to cry.
Its a shame that my single status has to affect her too. I've learnt to accept it, but she shouldnt have to learn to accept anything on my behalf. I am after all an adult who can look after herself.
Instead of a true celebration during Chinese New Year, honestly, its when all my family gets together and compare. They compare their status - in every which way...they compare their kids and how well or bad their kids are doing...its all done under the guise of being interested in our lives, but the truth is, they are just fishing for ammo.
So, unfortunately, my mother will be dealt with a number of queries about my status and im sure they will manage to make her feel hopeless about my being single.
Great. Something to look forward to in 17 days.
You know those moments when you thought you were going to spend all afternoon reading/shopping/drawing/whatever and for some reason or other you end up with 4 hours and nothing to do.
But on Australia Day i took Mum out to lunch. On the ride to the restaurant she was telling me something about someone and she briefly made a point that i dont think she realised the impact it would have on me...nor do i believe she even knew that she was revealing a lot of depth in her words.
For me, the most horrible thing about being single right now, is the fact that it makes my mother feel shit about herself. Like she has failed me in some way.
You may think its the typical mother thing, where she wants all her daughters to be married at a decent age, lest her only daughter. But there was so much pain in what she said that i know for a fact it wasnt so simple. I was sooo going to cry.
Its a shame that my single status has to affect her too. I've learnt to accept it, but she shouldnt have to learn to accept anything on my behalf. I am after all an adult who can look after herself.
Instead of a true celebration during Chinese New Year, honestly, its when all my family gets together and compare. They compare their status - in every which way...they compare their kids and how well or bad their kids are doing...its all done under the guise of being interested in our lives, but the truth is, they are just fishing for ammo.
So, unfortunately, my mother will be dealt with a number of queries about my status and im sure they will manage to make her feel hopeless about my being single.
Great. Something to look forward to in 17 days.
Pappadam Farm...
In trying to convince another workmate not to leave our company...one of my workmates tried to use reverse psychology.
The one leaving is Indian and is planning on relocating to Canberra.
Workmate says to him:
Don't worry about the Global Warming in Canberra or inhaling the air that Howard is exhaling...Canberra has the best Indian food on Earth!
They even have a pappadam farm!
In sad times, its always good to have a clown at work...
The one leaving is Indian and is planning on relocating to Canberra.
Workmate says to him:
Don't worry about the Global Warming in Canberra or inhaling the air that Howard is exhaling...Canberra has the best Indian food on Earth!
They even have a pappadam farm!
In sad times, its always good to have a clown at work...
