Age of Man vs Emotional Availability...

I was going to start by saying that this was my theory...but after thinking about it a little bit more, i would say it was more just my own personal opinion and its highly generalised.

I was thinking about this on my train ride into work today. So, if its sounding sketchy, thats because i only just thought about it.

I think that younger men, men younger than my age, are more emotionally available than every other age group. I'm not sure if its because they were born into a world that started embracing emotions...they were born in a time where SNAGs were the newest thing to describe men. Maybe their fathers taught them that it was okay to cry and that it was more than okay to feel love, show love, and be in love?

They all seem to want to be in a long term loving sort of relationship...once they get out of one, they want to be in another. Hmm...maybe they are just too co-dependent? Maybe they are just cant handle being alone?

Well, for whatever reason, they are the most available for relationships.

Guys around my age, the mid to late 20's, I believe are the least emotionally available sort of guys. Simply because they are in the midst of a career change or are working towards climbing the ladder. Money does make the world go round and I think the guys feel the pressures of making a lot so that their future family can live comfortably...i mean, lets not mention the increase in interest rates, shall we?

In a chauvinistic/machismo sort of way, they need to be a "success" in their eyes. And if that is at the expense of not dating or not being in a relationship, or not finding "the one" - so be it! (Thats what i think their attitude is like).

So much time is spent in furthering their education (certificates/diplomas/postgrad), socialising with the managers after work so that they can get to know you personally, playing some sport on a weekly basis or going to the gym to stay in shape, then hanging out with their mates on the weekend, because thats the only spare time they all have to get together...

Like come off it, thats a hectic schedule - where does the girlfriend fit into the picture??? And she doesnt fit into the picture.

These guys will probably try to have a girlfriend, but it probably wont last, not until their priorities get rearranged.

Which leads me to my next age group. The 30-something y/o man.

Men in their 30's i believe are emotionally available, but are highly pedantic. They have the great career, they are a success in their eyes, things cant get any better, except the "perfect wife"...and then the "perfect family" with the 2.5 kids living in the double storey house with white picket fences...wait, i think thats the dream of American women, circa the 80's...the 2.5 kids and the house with the white picket fences.
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I say these guys are highly pedantic, simply because they know what they want. They are ready to settle down and commit - but only to the right woman. And i can hear the men in the background piping "but at least he is available", right?

So, based upon my thoughts, the best bet for a girl is to go out with one of these younger guys or one of these older guys. Because they are the most emotionally available. BUT, younger guys are a risk, because when they reach their mid 20's they may change...to become one of those career oriented mid 20-something.

Therefore, the 30-something may be the best choice, but only if you are the right woman for them!
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*LoL*

And yes, there are exceptions out there...just like every software program written. And in the programs, a line of code can be added to catch these exception. (Geeky programmer pun intended!) In reality, those exceptions get "caught" by some girl before anybody else has a chance...because she knew he was one of those exceptions!

So...30-something men...