Friendly support...

I have been reading and commenting on this post from Ding! And i draw your attention to one of his comments where he writes: "I guess I didn’t make it clear in my previous post but my issue is with what happens after making contact...I may have a good conversation with someone but that’s all there is, things never progress..."

Now, i obviously was commenting and giving my 2 cents worth...and it sorta looks like i was giving more of my $1 worth...so i figured i would continue with my opinions here...and maybe help someone with a strategy so that they can get to know a person better.

This has been an intriguing social anomaly...how some just cant progress from a good conversation with someone...to perhaps becoming better friends with that person.

Most of what i will be writing about stems from a phone conversation i had with my best friend yesterday during lunch...she called because there has been some interesting developments amongst my high school friends in the past month or so...which i have been absent from as it doesnt really involve me...altho some of the things she told me, i already had a clue that it was brewing...

Apparently, there is not a triangle, but a pentagon thing happening amongst the boys and girls...

Boy A likes Girl A.
Girl A likes Boy B.
Boy B likes Girl B (Girl B use to like Boy B).
Boy C likes Girl B.
Girl B is starting to like Boy C.

And i have an feeling that:
Girl C likes Boy D...but Boy D likes the intern that is working in his team.

Now, we have all been friends since Year 7 or 8 in high school...i was secretly hoping that Girl B ended up with Boy B and thought that Boy B was waiting until he finished his law degree that he would make a move...but it seems that Boy C may have beat him to it...

For a while now, Boy C has been trying to get Boy A and Girl A together, by trying to get everyone together on outings...Boy C would organise regular tennis games...nite out to the movies...trips to the beach...dinners...just so that Boy A and Girl A could have the opportunity to chat and get to know each other.

This might seem childish...very reminiscent of high school days...but it worked...not to the fullest extent, because Girl A just didnt feel anything for Boy A in the end...but they went on a date and tried but found that they are better off good friends.

After all this, Boy C reaped some benefits too...all this time he thought Girl B liked Boy B...but Boy C won Girl B over with all the time they spent together trying to match their friends...

The point of talking about all this is that i wonder whether u have ever considered utilising ur friends more often as allies in ur pursuit of getting to know people? Im pretty sure your friends are more than willing to help...especially female friends helping male friends! ;)

I have set up a couple before...done it ever so discreetly that my girl friend had no idea that i set it up! I made her dream come true...and i dont think anyone knows that it was due to my cunning ability to manipulate people! mwahhaha

I got everyone dates for our Year 12 formal...and all the guys thought they did it on their own...and all the girls thought all the boys did it on their own...but it was all me...pity thats where the bucket fell short, as i was the one dateless...(too busy setting everyone else up!)

Which is why i need some people to do what i do, but for me...heheheh...i need that "friendly support".

I think especially now that its getting increasingly difficult to get to know people really well...friends should organise outings or something so that people have the opportunity to meet and talk more often...and u never know...it could be like Boy C and Girl B...something might blossom without you really trying! ;)

I mean this is what people should do to get to know eachother better...I remembered when we finished with dinner at Masuya's for JC's birthday, we went to some bar (i cant remember the name now)...and we sat there, playing "truth or dare" but only asking truth questions...there was only 8 of us and we were asking the most interesting questions...and i think ino some people more in some ways...

Im not saying go out there and play "truth or dare"...i think that if your friends can tell ur interested in someone...they should back you up and help you get to know them better by organising stuff more often...but for smallish groups otherwise the large group will break up into smaller groups...and that friend ur trying to help may not break into the smaller group that the person they like has broken in to...i would organise things so that my friend could see the guy she crushes on more often and give her the opportunity to talk to him...because alot of the time, its about the opportunities!

If your friends cant tell...u should tell them and ask for help, cos u have tried and its not really working...its even better when ur friend is a close friend to that other person! Its like having insider information...hehehehe...

Back to my best friend and the conversation during lunch yesterday...during the nites, over phone conversations...friends of the people involved in the pentagon were trying to work out if they should be helping Boy B or Boy C...and they were trying to get the insider info on Girl B. I think this grapevine networking is silly but is needed...admittedly, u gotta be with trustworthy and discreet friends...otherwise the whole friendly support thing will fall apart.

So, all the people out there, go organise something...put a bunch of single people together and see if anyone hits it off...preferrably put a group of people with similar interests together...hehehhe...it helps...actually JC's party proliferated some good ideas...that nite i bumped into my best friends from primary school at 333. They were actually there for another social gathering organised by a male friend of theirs...the deal was you had to bring along a single friend to the party to introduce to everyone...so all the people who turned up brought a single friend...maybe you could try this?