Cheatin' before you buy...

I have read a lot or seen a lot of things lately that disturb me.

Do all men feel okay with having many partners before "settling" down?

But why the double standards if a woman today has more than one partner before she marries???

Some weekend ago, i finally sat down to watch the Pursuit of Happyness and the Last Kiss. The former with Will Smith & son and the latter with Zach Braff & Rachel Bilson.

The Last Kiss relates more to this topic...Zach's character has an affair with Rachel's character...meanwhile he lied about this relationship to his fiance who is at home with a bub in the tum. His fiance is a gorgeous, intelligent, funny gal and it doesnt quite make sense as to why he cheated on her...

Is it purely because he can? The opportunity was there. Temptation got the better of him???

The bigger question is why does she take him back???

The poignant part of the movie is towards the end where the fiance's father says to Zach's character something along the line of:

"Temptation will always be there. Its what you do about it that will matter."

I'm pretty sure there are women out there who have cheated on their fiancee too.

I dont really get what compels them...but then i have never been in a situation to really understand...i have never really been tempted.

Only once was i sorta, kinda, something or other close to temptation with another guy...not that the guy offered a proposition or anything of the sort...there was a little friendly-like flirting and it made me realise that if i was considering another guy...well, then it was time to move on.

I wasnt about to cheat. And to me, cheating is the ultimate no-no in a relationship. Trust is one of the most important things...cheating would be breaking that trust. I would personally prefer a clean break up than to have feelings entangled in lies...i actually tell my partners this...that if they get tempted and want to act on it, then they should break up with me...because if they cheat, thats the end of the relationship...no amount of "baby, i love you" will mend whats been broken.

I've been lucky so far...no cheaters were ever on the books.

No wasting of tears on b@stards who soooo dont deserve it.

I read something today and it was about men and their need to sleep with as many partners as possible...that it was genetically coded in them...all about procreating and sowing their seeds in as many partners...part of a darwinian style of survival of the fittest and in doing so providing a higher success rate of their seed turning into a baby...a healthier, stronger baby or babies.

The funny thing was that the article turned and started talking about women in the same light...like the women in Africa and South America and some Asian countries...where it was part of their culture to have as many partners as they could have...to provide their babies with as many father figures as possible...thereby bringing up a "super-baby" with a variety of influences from the many fathers...pretty much saying that one father for the baby wasnt enough...since as we all know...individual men arent perfect!
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Cheers to the person(s) who is doing the research on these women and the culture they live in.

Great to know that others are trying to give women a fair go in this arena.